(1) addiction and to link the person
Is actually obsessed contact us without us. the relationship itself does not exist, only a longing for another person. Instead of putting the emphasis on the relationship itself, its quality, level, the pleasure it gives – all the attention going to the person on the other side, all focus is concentrated in and about, all the energy focused on the availability of that person and if his desire to connect.
(2) stress constant
touch obsessive there’s constant sense of constant stress, as if everything is temporary, everything is temporary, as if there is no stability and certainty and everything would fall crash at any moment. fear of losing the most is a central motif in touch obsessive.
(3) a sense of transience and danger
of people who are obsessive relationships – are the people who live all the time with a sense of persecution, danger, temporary conspiracy. because their confidence is low, they kept busy with defenses, defensive, Abhiarachweut worst negative thoughts.
(4) self-hatred is rooted in
an obsessive relationship is the result of self-hatred rooted. He makes a person completely abandon himself to be willing to give up his life and all there is to, for a drop of someone else’s life. People make connections obsessive compulsive among other things, to get away from themselves and get away from them as far as possible. They try to find refuge in someone else’s life – Must not be who they are meant to be and live the life they were given. They cling to the hope that someone else gives them, as if the key to happiness is in the hands of others rather than their hands.
(5) pessimism
born obsessed with negativity and pessimism. people have access to sad, negative, small faith and closed are the people who tend to develop compulsive relationships, something that has tragically known advance these relationships, and people are pessimistic are people who do not – consciously attract good things impossible connections.
(6) observation about the world of trouble
for people with obsessive compulsive who run a very narrow and there is observation of the world, totally false belief as if the spouse will lose their , the world destroyed, they do not have a life, they never find someone like him will never be a substitute. This is a false and narrow because of looking at factual, the amount of people in the world is essentially infinite, and always there is a worthy substitute, and even better, for a loved one.
(7 ) all investment eggs in one basket
always obsessed people invest their all eggs in one basket. They invest all his energy and all their efforts in one person, even when they know it’s over is not good, and just go with my eyes closed and without any caution about the “jackpot.” compulsive people make connections are usually people with suicidal tendencies, with a longing for extreme risks, Addiction tragedies have an unconscious attraction and failure situations.
(8) lack of social life
generally, people who manage obsessive relationships tend to cancel or reduce their social life almost exclusively focus on the object of their obsession.
(9) creating a cult of two
of the characteristics of contact compulsion is being kind of a cult of two. by compulsive double perception: “I’ve got you and you have me, and besides we do not need anyone.” Compulsive double approach is not correct, is not healthy and dangerous, that is loading on the marital relationship than he can accommodate, and it does not allow freedom even more balanced style of “both separately and together.”
(10) ready to absorb suffering, humiliation and pain
about compulsive There is readiness of both spouses or at least one of them – suffer. This approach that “love is stolen moments of happiness with massive doses of suffering” a relationship characterized by compulsive. These people did not experience relationships where there is no suffering, only comfort, success and pleasure. So they cling to the formula masochist, that’s the only thing they know.
tip end: an obsessive relationship characterized by a gradual deterioration of all aspects of life – an endless pursuit for the other spouse an idea. He eventually leads to mental crash and for a long rehabilitation process and not easy.